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Saturday, November 7th, 2009
Before i tell you some really romantic proposal ideas, you need to make sure that you don’t simply carbon copy an idea from somewhere else!
I suggest you make your proposal completely unique to the two of you by using some of the many shared experiences you have together! That will show you’ve been paying attention!
I hope you get some insight and inspiration from these romantic proposal ideas:
1. Tell her that you have to go on a 2 week business trip which coincides with your anniversary! After 1 week, she’ll be missing you! Surprise her with your presence and propose!
2. Go on a hot air balloon ride at night, over the mountains and under the stars! Take her favourite food and some champagne and propose to her! Don’t forget an ipod or magazine to lend the balloon operator!
3. Go digging for shells at the beach! You could “find” an old bottle with love poem inside! Read it to her, it will become clear it’s about her, then propose at the end!
4. Have an instant wedding! Be extra sure she’ll say yes first though! Take her for a meal, propose and when she agrees, start the wedding on the spot! Have all her friends and family on stand by! Make sure everything is planned in fine detail!
5. Get her three red roses. One representing the past, one for the present and one for the future! The ring is attached to the future!
6. Go for a nice spa visit followed by a photo shoot! While you’re getting photographed, go down on one knee and propose, you’ll have the pictures forever! Afterwards, go to a nice restaurant followed by a 5 star hotel!
7. Arrange to meet her in the park! Show up late on a Horse wearing a rented suit of armor. As you approach, a friend could play Holst’s “Jupiter!” Get down on one knee and offer to be her prince!
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Thursday, November 20th, 2008
Marriage becomes a fragile bond at times. In this relationship of man and woman, woman is a more sensitive agent. She often faces extremely difficult situations when her husband leaves the house. Men may leave the house for many reasons. Sometimes he gets angry over some issue, sometimes as a consequence of some fight; husband wants to put an end to the marriage. In most occasions, the reason is misunderstanding. In any case, you should try to uphold your relationship and get your husband back.
Mostly, when your husband leaves the house, both the parties are very emotional. For this reason, you may not like to hold your husband back and allow him to leave in anger. You may also worsen the situation by telling him that you are happy without him and things of the sort.
You may not even like to contact your man if he leaves considering it as an ego issue or feel that by doing so, you may be degrading your dignity. However, to save your relationship, if you have to do things like this it is not about ego at this point. This is more about being mature and handling the situation in an intelligent way. Even if the fault is at his end, contacting him or even apologizing monetarily can help him to calm down. Once he is emotionally stable, you can talk and discuss the issue like grown ups.
You should show genuine concern about him. Yet at the same time, you should not act as a weakling. Men regard those women who are strong and confident. You need to remain strong and at he same time, let him know that you care for him as he is your husband. He is your strength and you are his.
Marriage is about mutual love and care. If any of the partners leave the house, the other person should try and make the situation normal. This relationship requires patience as well as understanding.
Most people lose their spouse in emotional fits. Man is more aggressive by nature and can easily lose temper. In this situation, woman should act more calmly and try to get him back. It will not be her defeat but her victory.
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Thursday, November 20th, 2008
I saw a look of resignation on my friend’s face as she said, “I don’t think I’m cut out to be a step mother.” There was a combination of sadness, frustration and resignation. She’d been married to her new husband for almost two years. The struggles started before their marriage, as it usually does when two people, with children from previous marriages decide to “blend families.” After all this time she saw no end in sight.
My friend has two daughters from her previous marriage. Her new husband has two daughters from his previous marriage…and a former wife who appeared to be determined to make things difficult. My friend has a former husband who lives out of state with his new family.
The four girls were all close in age and could possibly have been friends if they met at school, weren’t step siblings and didn’t have parents pulling at them.
Often, we the parents just need to get out of the way. Blended family issues can be resolved sooner and without causing added pain to the children if we allow space and time to work things out. I know from my own first hand meddling. I’ve detailed in my book, “You Used To Live In My House.”
My kids…back when they were kids, when my wife Louisa and I were newlyweds, didn’t need a new mom. Their mother was alive and well. Louisa didn’t want to be their mom. She knew her role and would have been happy to be a step mother. We all moved from Virginia to Colorado together so I thought she should be their new mom. All this while my kids really hadn’t given up hope that their mother and I might some how reconcile. We’d been apart for four years by then and each of the adults knew that wasn’t going to happen.
While I was living in Colorado my kids return to Virginia and to their mother,
I didn’t know what she was saying to them, about me. I didn’t learn that until three years later when they moved to Colorado. By then new roles weren’t so new and were accepted pretty easily. All the while, I knew that Louisa never criticized her sons’ father, even though he’d been virtually absent from their lives for several years.
Eleven years later Louisa received a Happy Step Mom Day card from Kelly on Mother’s Day. All of the ‘kids’ openly express their love for each of us these days, and have for some time. They all get along well with each other.
I can speak for myself and I believe it applies to many step parents, we are so determined that everyone will get a long and like each other immediately, that we make things more difficult than they need to be. Affection and assimilation cannot be forced upon our children. They have to find their own way and all we have to do is get out of the way.
Kids are resilient. I’ll over simplify it with an example of how they overcome the tales of an Easter Bunny and Santa Claus at very impressionable ages. If and when they see the new step parents showing affection and compromise it will be easier for them to move forward with their own feelings.
A friend of ours, Donna Lopez, provided the following testimonial to my book:
“After reading the book, “You Used To Live In My House” I began to think differently of blended families. I realized that it took much more love and faith and work that I ever imagined to sustain one household. I began to appreciate all those families around me that I once took for granted. This book allows us to see this family with such truth and pain and laughter! A recommended read!”
Obviously that’s flattering and I appreciate Donna’s comments. Her comments remain timely.
Don’t look now, but there are increasing numbers of blended families on the horizon. As more couples split and often after a child or two, the newly freed up mom or dad hooks up with that new ‘soul mate.’ Bingo, there’s a new family and the new spouse may even have children of their own from a previous relationship.
How do I know? I’m reminded of a question I was asked when I spoke to a Rotary Club not long ago. “What prepared you to write your book?” My answer: “I lived it.”
Back in the day, circa 1981, I met Louisa H. Harrison. She’s been Louisa H. Coons since June 18, 1983 and on that day, my three children and her two children, blended into this new family. Oh, by the way…on the fateful day, they were ages 8, 9, 10, 11 and 12.
We’re all the better for it now. And if you read through what I call ‘Tales of the dark side’ (AKA “You Used To Live In My House”) you’ll eventually get to the happiness we enjoy today. Being in a blended family doesn’t have to make any or all of the participants crazy. I’ve only scratched the surface of how I, and sometimes we, went about it the wrong way. If you get to know us we should give you hope.
R. Perry Coons
http://www.youusedtoliveinmyhouse.com
R. Perry Coons has thrown the door wide open with his narrative of the first 25 years of his relationship journey with his wife and family. He says, “If you get to know us, we should give you hope.”
His background is varied, as witnessed by the many personal and professional experiences he shares with his readers…husband, father, grandfather, runner and former radio dj, award winning shopping center marketing director, special events coordinator, entertainment manager, Realtor and self-described coffee achiever. He holds a copyright on a manuscript titled “Surrel Estate” and is working on a novel about a radio dj in the late 60′s. His working title is “Record Player.” Perry lives in Denver, Colorado with his wife Lousia and their Australian Cattle Dog.
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Wednesday, November 19th, 2008
If your husband has become distant your mind may be imagining all kinds of scenarios to explain his behavior. It’s easy to jump to conclusions when the person you love most in the world suddenly pulls back and is less connected to you. Typically when a man becomes more closed off with his emotions it’s because he is thinking about his feelings. If you are concerned that this is a warning sign of an impending breakdown of the relationship, you may be right. There are steps you can take to make your husband love you more so you can save your marriage.
If your husband has become distant your first instinct may be to pester him into talking to you about his feelings. This isn’t the approach you want to take. Many men become agitated when they are feeling pressured into talking about how they are feeling. It can result in them pulling back even more. If you want your husband to feel closer to you again you need to give him some time and space.
Quite often the source of his change in mood and the reason your husband becomes distant is because there is an ongoing conflict between the two of you. Men don’t always express how deeply they are affected when they disagree with their wife. If the conflict is something that has been a thorn in the side of your marriage for some time it can actually cause a shift in how your husband feels about you. Work out any issues with him now so they don’t impact your marriage any further.
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Wednesday, November 19th, 2008
There are many warning signs of an affair in a marriage and if you suspect that your spouse is being unfaithful, you’ll want proof. People embroiled in adulterous affairs often think they are too clever to be caught, but everyone lets things slip at some point. If you are married to someone who you think may have taken on a lover outside of your marriage, look for these signals that indicate that they are no longer being faithful to you.
One of the most obvious signs of an affair is a change in intimacy within the marriage. At first thought you may believe that someone who is cheating is going to want to be intimate less often. That’s actually not always the case. In fact, many men and women who are sleeping with someone else will actually want to make love more often with their spouse. This may be to overcompensate for the guilt they are feeling. If your spouse’s interest in sex with you has changed, that’s a sign that something else may be at play within your marriage.
The most common form of communication these days is the cell phone. If you suspect that your spouse isn’t being faithful pay special attention to their cell phone behavior. It’s much safer, in the eyes of the adulterer, to have their lover call their cell. Therefore one of the signs of an affair in your marriage is how your spouse handles those calls. If they repeatedly excuse themselves to use the phone, they are having conversations they don’t want you to hear. Also pay more attention at how often they simply ignore calls. If it’s happening often chances are good that it’s their lover calling and since you are present your spouse obviously can’t take that call.
It’s often hard to know whether your spouse is indeed committing adultery. Many people can have a long term affair without anyone suspecting a thing. In fact, sixty percent of married men and forty percent of married women will be unfaithful. For telltale signs of a cheating spouse, and how to get irrefutable and undeniable proof of the affair within moments visit this helpful site.
Although the aftermath of finding out whether or not your spouse is cheating can be devastating, it’s much better to know. You owe it to yourself and your children to know the truth.
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Sunday, November 16th, 2008
A marriage relationship is probably on of the most important relationships in life. This is because through it, you can establish so much including new generations of society. A lot of emphasis has been put on the importance of marriage but, more and more couple are choosing to end their marital bliss. There are so many divorce cases worldwide. In the western world, more than half of marriages will end in separation or divorce. With these alarming statistics, it is vital to ensure that you realize the problem and get the right weapon to fight. Marriage is worth fighting for and, it will require commitment from both partners. One of the biggest problems that a marriage relationship can have is post-honey moon slump. Marriage is made of phases and, you are most happy during your honeymoon period and a short time after that. A period where you get to know the real character of your spouse is when the ordinary becomes a reality. Many couples start to regress.
People who used to talk to each other may begin to stay silent; their sexual life might not be exciting anymore and many other things. To avoid this slump in a marriage relationship, the following advice will suit you just right. The first thing is to avoid prolonged periods of anger. Christians will tell you that the bible says that you can get angry but avoid sin. In other words, it is human to get angry but, your reaction during your anger matters a lot. If you choose to give your partner the silent treatment, it can go on forever especially if your partner is also angry. Anger kills the mood and it can certainly destroy a marriage. Try compromise and even forgiveness. The truth is, most couples will do things that are not acceptable to their partners and, this shows that they are not perfect. If you are both willing to make your marriage work, you can easily do this by being patient, forgiving and understanding of each other.
The other thing that will help you avoid the slump in your marriage relationship is having the will never to withhold sex from your partner. If you want your man to be distant from you, try withholding sex. This does not only apply to men but also to women. Many couples punish each other this way but, in the end, they end up making things even worse. This does not mean that you need to overlook what your partner did wrong. If he or she is apologetic, give them a chance and be mature about it. Your bond will only grow as you make your every day experience worthwhile. Another tip that helps couples a lot is keeping away from activities that may draw you further from your spouse. The more people spend time apart both physically and emotionally, the more they are prone to focusing on other things that may not be of help to the relationship. Therefore, when you have free weekends, do not spend all your time watching football or at a church group, show your partner you care enough to sacrifice time to be companions of each other. Marriage has the potential to be a great haven for joy and happiness.
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Sunday, November 16th, 2008
Not everyone can just enter into marriage. You need to meet certain marriage requirements for you to be eligible to marry. Every state will have its own requirements but, there is no much difference when it comes to the most important things. First, there are legal requirements which are deemed as most important. If you do not meet the requirements put in place, you cannot get married. Some of those marriage requirements include the following. You must be of a certain legal age which is usually 18 to get married. This is for the purpose of a consent which can only be given by an adult. In many states, if the couple is not yet 18 and is almost that age, they can get married; with the consent of their parents. The other thing that is vital in many states is the fact that you must not be closely related to the person you are going to marry. For example, people cannot marry their mother, sister, brother, step mother and so on. These legal requirements are tailored to ensure that the standards of marriage are upheld. In many countries, going against this requirement is punishable by law. Another thing that is crucial is a good mental ability for both partners during the time of marriage.
The parties must understand what they are doing and know the consequences of all their actions. There are cases where couples are not sure of what they are doing and end up regretting afterwards. Another vital requirement is that couples must be sober during the time of marriage. This is to make sure that their judgment is not impaired in any way. Many people are not keen on this and, this is because many couples take their marriage day very seriously. Another requirement that will be found in many states and countries include, not being married to someone else. If you were married before, you need to have a certificate of divorce first. Many people have been caught getting married while they have not finalized their previous marriages. Some states require that couples about to get married go through blood tests. Again, this is only a requirement in a few states. In most places, your health issues are personal and private.
You will need to have a marriage license to make your marriage legal. In all states apart from California and Massachusetts, people of the same sex cannot get married. There are so many other requirements you need to know about. The best thing is to look for marriage requirements in your area and then follow them. Other requirements that might not be considered legal requirements are the readiness for marriage. You must be a person who is prepared to enter into wedlock and commit. This is probably one of the greatest requirements that every person should have. If you are getting married abroad, make a point of knowing what will be needed of you. The best way to enter into marital bliss is to meet the necessary criterion that has been set.
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Saturday, November 15th, 2008
What should you do if your wife wants out of your marriage? When a woman first seriously considers divorce she doesn’t arrive at this state of desperation by a process of calm deduction. She is simply reacting to the feeling that she “can’t take it anymore.” Sometimes your wife’s decision to leave you may be her way of trying to make you change, but more often it is a desperate effort to survive. She cannot endure anymore heartache, so she has reached out for the separation (or divorce) like a drowning man reaching out for a life jacket. How did this come about? Often it is due to the husband’s negligence in hurting their wives.
How Husbands Injure Their Wives
How may you as a husband inadvertently hurt your wife? Obviously it is when you do not love her as you should. This is shown in the following ways:
1. Not appreciating or acknowledging her.
2. Comparing her with other women
3. Taking her for granted (“Oh, never mind…she will understand” or “…I’m sure she won’t mind”)
4. Having to be right all the time
5. Making her feel vulnerable, alone or isolated, for example by not helping out at home or not standing up for her.
6. Destroying her self-esteem through harsh or rude words and actions that demean her.
7. Not paying enough attention to her, for example by giving more time and focus on someone or something else other than her.
8. Having intimate friendships with a member(s) of the opposite sex (it may or may not involve having an affair).
9. Being too demanding on her, for example by insisting that she be almost totally subservient to your every wish
10. Not taking the trouble to understand her.
Your wife’s main source of security or comfort is you, her husband. When you do any of the above things (or other similar ones), her sense of security and self-worth are severely threatened. The problem is most wives feel that they have communicated their hurt to their husbands but most husbands have not realized it. She felt like she was trying to get you to understand but you thought she was just being emotional or overreacting. My experience is that most women leave their husbands because they expected to feel loved, protected and cherished but their husbands unwittingly have sent the message that they are not. If this happens repeatedly over a long period of time, your wife will very likely walk out on you. In such a situation, how can we bring about reconciliation?
The Path to Reconciliation
Firstly, do not make excuses for your actions or words that have hurt her. It’s pointless to try to make her understand you. Simply acknowledge them and ask for her forgiveness. I know that it takes two to tango, meaning that she also probably contributed in some way to how you acted. But now is not the time to blame her. You have to ignore her faults for now. Be a man and take responsibility for your own mistakes, own up to it and humble yourself by sincerely apologizing. This will go a long way in softening her hardened heart.
Secondly, listen to her without correcting her. She doesn’t have to be proved right or shown to be wrong. Do not try to talk her out of her feelings or belittle her emotions and behavior. This will only make her more hurt and angry.
Thirdly, understand her hurt condition. Do so by empathizing with her. She just wants you to understand her feelings. Relay her feelings back to her. Comfort her and let her know you understand how she feels.
Fourthly, assure her of your commitment to her. Change whatever is wrong with your attitudes, actions or words. As her husband you have the responsibility to restore her sense of self-esteem, security, confidence and trust in you.
Lastly, put into action your commitments to her. What you have said you will do, make sure you actually do it.
Conclusion
I have always maintained that it is the husband who should primarily be responsible for ensuring a successful marriage relationship. Therefore if anything is wrong with your marriage, you as the husband must be pro-active in setting things right. Only by doing so will you be able to save your marriage.
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Sunday, November 9th, 2008
Being married can be an important step in a couple’s life and you must make sure that you are prepared for all the different things that will change once you are married. There are many things that can change over the course of a marriage including how big your family is and your financial status. You should seriously think about how all the things that might change in your marriage and what you want to do about that.
Prenuptial agreements can be one of the most helpful ways to make sure that if a divorce happens, your assets and family are secure. This type of agreement is when you and your spouse sit down before the wedding and discuss what will happen with all your assets. You will sit down with your future spouse to discuss what might happen with future children as well as any property you obtain during the marriage. This will be discussed in the presence of a lawyer and will be written out by the same lawyer as well. The two of you need to discuss exact details for what will be written out in your prenuptial agreement.
The first thing that needs to be written out is what will happen with any future kids that you may have or adopt during your marriage. There are many options that you can take while you are married and trying to have children. Even if you don’t plan on having children, you may want to make a note in the agreement of what you would like to do just in case the issue of children comes up.
The next thing that you should consider putting in to your prenup would be any financial aspects that you might want to include in the process. When you are married over a long period of time, financial status with you and your spouse can change. You need to be prepaired for anything that might come up during a divorce. Deciding how you will divide the assets in a prenuptial agreement can be a helpful tool if a divorce ever comes up between you and your spouse. Dividing the assets can be one of the hardest parts during a divorce, so having things already planned out can be one of the best things that you could do for the future.
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Joseph Devine
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Wednesday, November 5th, 2008
Love comes in the most unexpected time. When I was young, I would always tell my family that I will get married at the age of 25. By that time, I am through with my studies and probably working already. I promise to help my family after I finish school. I dream a lot of dreams actually. I planned my life. I intend to finish my studies at a short time. I go to school even during summer to shorten the time of my studies. I fared well in school. I was always a pride and joy of my parents. But I failed miserably. I got pregnant when I was 19 and graduating already in college. You could just imagine the dismay in my parents’ face. I failed them terribly. All my dreams were shattered just because I hurried in life.
Is there a right time to get married? Certainly YES. Actually, it is not apt to say that one has to be 25 and above to get married. It is a must that one has to be prepared financially and psychologically before plunging into marriage. Marriage can wait. Keep your values as much as possible. It is so easy to get married but very tough to stay married. Marriage is a lifetime commitment. It is a point of no return especially here in the Philippines. Divorce is not legal here and annulment costs so much. If you have no means and you want to get out of marriage, you can’t easily get out. You’re doomed. So for those who are in a hurry, you better think twice. Life is so complicated as it is. Nothing compares to a life with no responsibilities and carefree. Stay happy. As the song goes…wise men say only fools rush in…Don’t be one.
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